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DEALING WITH DISAPPOINTMENTS

We all plan our lives and almost schedule everything that we want to achieve but it always never works out according to planned. As human beings, we spend our lives strategizing to a point where we never stop to think what if all that we plan ends up in vain. It is a wonderful thing to plan in fact one should have a clear vision of where they want to be but I must say disappointment is something that we all deal with and it is inevitable. Everyone reacts differently to disappointments therefore some get depressed, lose confidence, lose faith, get angry with God ,give up but surprisingly for some people disappointment brings the best out of them. I am one of those people that when i get disappointed, I get hurt just like everyone else but along the years i feel like during that moment is when i tend to rise up the most. I am here to tell you that just because one door closes it does not mean that other doors will not open. The reason why i am saying this is that we often get caught up or rather get comfortable in the situations that we find good enough for us yet they are actually toxic and once there is a slight change, we start to panic which means we are not always ready to let go of what is not meant to be ours and also let what is ours in. Disappointment can tear you apart and makes you lose hope oh yes and this is a fact but you should never lose hope just because something did not go your way. It simply means that whatever it is you were trying to do or you were involved in was not meant to be i mean it is like being married or being in a relationship with someone for a long time but then suddenly it ends. I believe that some disappointments happen for a reason and sometimes God is trying to tell us something through them so you have to be careful at how you respond. Just know and always remember that whatever you lose that brought pain and agony in your life, it certainly was not from God. Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

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FEELING LONELY

I used to spend all my time wondering how is it possible for us to have it all yet very lonely and i came to a conclusion that it is more than possible. Loneliness happens in different ways and everyone has their own definition of loneliness but personally i think that loneliness is caused by the environment that we find ourselves in . In most cases it can be caused by the type of families we come from , lack of love in our relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends , friendships and lastly marriages. Sometimes i feel lonely in my friendships where i feel like i have friends but at the same time i do not which is strange but it happens and i have learnt to let it go over these past years. Some people feel like they do not have families yet they do , others feel like they are not married yet they are and trust me it is not an easy feeling. When you are lonely, you start to feel like the world is against you or that you do not belong with anyone or anywhere. Loneliness comes with anger, bitterness, depression and self pity and these are things that can drag us down all our lives. I can not talk about this topic without including myself and to be honest, i have felt lonely countless times where i found myself in a situation but i could not talk about it easily with anyone because they would not understand just the way God would. I am here to tell you that with God, there is no room for loneliness because he fills you up with all that you need and that includes putting the right people in your path i mean people who will not make you lonely. In the midst of loneliness, there is hope and strength therefore no situation is permanent. God is more than ready to receive us even when everyone else around does not want us . 1 Corinthians 10:13 says No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

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UNDERSTANDING WHO YOU ARE

Everyday i ask God to give meaning to my life and therefore i wonder how i can touch someone else’s life. I have lost a lot of things in the past but i have never lost my strength. Life has seasons and i’m in that season of finding myself i mean does that ever happen to you? This might sound strange but there are times where you need to just stop and understand why you are in the situations you find yourself in each time. I never knew this can work until recently i sat down to really analyze myself and get very close to God. This might sound cliche to some but God is the only person to turn to and he always has the answers to every question that we have in our lives. Has life ever gotten meaningless that you wonder how you even got to that point? Well it has happened to me so many times and still is happening but i know with God, everything becomes clear. Disappointments cause us to be harsh on ourselves believing that there can never be a way out but not knowing that no situation is permanent. I also wonder what it takes to fit into what we call society today because from my own experience, many people tend to think that once you are not on their level or doing half of what they are doing then you don’t qualify to fit in. This makes me want to just stay in my shield because i don’t feel like i’m good enough to even be in the same category but life is about pushing. You push until you make it and it does not matter how you start but it’s how you end that people always talk about. Never forget that not every end is great because i’m sure you have seen or heard of people who started off well but ended miserably . Don’t listen to what everyone says about you but stay true to yourself, keep God involved in your life and the capacities that lie within you to achieve it all. Colossians 2:9-10 says For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.

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FEELING UNAPPRECIATED

We get caught up in spending time pleasing people around us and not really taking time out for ourselves. We often have that mentality that if we give then we will receive and i am sorry to say this but it is not always the case. One of the lessons i have learnt in life is that you should give with no expectations. You see when you give with no expectations, you then appreciate the real meaning of giving i mean a good example would be when you give something away you never expect to have it back. We deal with people who tend to receive but are never willing to give and that is why you have some people feeling unappreciated their whole life. The reality of the matter is, you should be able to balance between what you give and what you receive to avoid feeling unappreciated. You should give with one heart and know that you do not need to be repaid by ordinary people but believe that God is the one to reward you. I know how it feels to be unappreciated i mean you practically spend all your time and energy trying to help those you love and care about but in the end when it is your turn, they do not seem to show up. My encouragement to you today is that surround yourself with people who you think will value and appreciate things that you do because real appreciation starts from small things and when someone can appreciate you for the little things that you do, then you know that they will appreciate the bigger things that you do. Do not look for appreciation but let it find you and remember that you should recognize this as a learning opportunity from God, (Colossians 1:10) says So that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.

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WHEN NEGATIVITY IS ALL AROUND YOU

Let me tell you something, negativity is always going to be around you but always remember that what people say does not determine how you end. The devil loves to see us struggle and almost knock us down to a point where we feel like we are worthless and so when everything is negative on your side, just know that it is coming from the devil therefore whoever is involved in making your life miserable is not meant to be in it in the first place. Never be afraid of letting people go out of your life if their presence brings you pain or even changes your character because you find out that each time you are around them, you lose who you truly are inside. These are the kind of people you should watch out for and shut the door regardless of how long you have known them. Sometimes it is the people we know the longest that end up disappointing us and then we begin to ask ourselves why yet in reality they were never our friends. Knowing who you are and what you stand for is the best way to deal with negativity therefore this means that no matter what people throw at you, it does not affect you. Let me tell you something even more interesting, focus on God and i know some of you are not believers but it is the best thing that can happen to you. You see when you let God into your life, all he does is fight for you and reminds you of who you belong to and that is him. At the end of the day people can say all they want but when God says the opposite of what they say about you, then it gets very interesting. You then begin to change your mindset to a point where it seems like nothing ever gets to you. I can not sit here and lie to you that it is easy but it is only by the grace of God that this can happen. I recently met someone who i had never met before but turned my life around in a positive way within a week and i feel like this person has filled the void of 20 or 30 people i thought were my friends. You do not need 1000 people in your life to feel loved or important but you can have only one or two people who are going to lead you to your destiny. Titus 3:10 says As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him.

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FEELING WORTHLESS

Now most of us are familiar with this topic or we have even felt worthless in one way or the other in our lives. Feeling worthless usually starts from what is around you but mostly how you are being treated by others. A lot of times people say or do hurtful things to us that make us question if anything good will ever come out of us to begin with which is often very painful to even think of. Feeling worthless is something that can also come from within and the reason why i am saying this is because sometimes we often accept every single thing that everyone else says about us and in acceptance, we then forget who we are in Christ. God does not look at us as worthless people but he sees us as his children and once you start to look at yourself as what he thinks of you or sees you to become, nobody can make you feel like you do not matter and that nothing good can ever come out of you. Know your true identity in God because you were bought with a price which means that no man has the authority over your life therefore you matter dearly to him .I am here to tell you that God loves those who feel rejected, worthless, hurt and broken because he wants to do something great in your life and all the glory will go to him. It says in Isaiah 43:1 But now this is what the LORD says, the one who created you, Jacob, the one who formed you, Israel:“Do not be afraid, because I’ve redeemed you. I’ve called you by name; you are mine.

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